Abstinence??

Hello TOF members and guests. I am really considering something. I've always wondered if sex is overrated...or was I just not connected enough for it to mean that much to me. I enjoy sex like all others and get my cravings here and there. But I am far from a sex addict or someone who feels she has to have it all the time. When we have sex (especially ladies) who are we really doing it for? Of course we want to satisfy our partners and ourselves. But what made you even decide to actually do it? Who initiated it? And if you initiated it was it because you felt that's what your partner wanted? Speaking personally for myself I can admit that most of the time I was trying to find a way to satisfy them or keep them. It was more about them than me. This was an unconscious act on my part. I had to step back and say is this really what I want? Of course I want to feel the benefits...but do I really want this with this person now. Right now? Does sex take a part of you away when you do it? Is it really meant for marriage? I personally believe so. What's left when you meet your husband (the one God has for you) and the union and consummation that you all share doesn't mean the same when you do it because sex became just an act you did? without any worth or real meaning. Don't get me wrong, there are emotions attached to sex. You can make LOVE and not be married. But is there a deeper meaning and depth of love when you're one with your husband or wife. The one you vowed to be with for the rest of your life? I'm considering waiting?........

I can feel you on this. I think you should wait, I had considered that myself. Things will be so much better once you build that relationship up from the ground without sex and have those real emotions and true love. Then once you get married, on the honeymoon its on and poppin.

Yes...thank you. I have been celibate since I wrote this. Haven't really had any strong temptations and nor have I had any strong urges. I would rather have companionship and meaningful friendships right now at this point in my life. Thanks for the reply.

Thats whats up, no problem. I think the strong companionship and/or relationship is best for people to start with cause that's all you will have once you get to a age where you can't have sex anymore

I feel u !! i once went out wit a female who was celibate..and it was cool cause u get 2 know that person a lil more !!! For instance Make up Sex !! make u forget about why he or She pissed u off .. And the problem usually goes unsolved .. But when there's No make up sex its a better Chance that u talk shit Out and find out how that problem came about and work on solving it... i think it could really help a Relationship !!...maybe i should try 2 be abstinent for awhile .. Just look @ it as an sexual cleansing !!! Lol

Thats some real talk. Sex is like the icing on the cake, but you gotta bake the cake first and TV shows like that do represent a problem with people today who think all thats ok, I can't front I was like that for a minute. But all the flings and what not are great, but it's not the same as having that one there for you and with you...and if you got that one without sex...you know its gone be good when you finally do.

LMAO, wow. Sure Sure....Thats what they all say

you always having somethin slick to say....SSSSSHHHHH!!

Thats real, cause any man you gone with is gone make that wait with you, and when your ready, he is gone be more than ready...and u gone be limpin after wards